A woman to woman talk

A woman to woman talk

Since I have dedicated my time to write for peace through motivating and inspiring people to adopt a positive view of life, my fellow women are always in the center of my advocacy.

My bias for mothers or women in general has been carried on to my charity works by desiring to have more women on my recipient list.

It is not unnatural for a woman like me to feel for them because I understand their woes and pains. I am a mother and fought strongly to be liberated from a wrong relationship.

I own my faults for my personal flaws but I would not submit to a relationship that would not allow my growth. No law or man can repress me for I shall rise.

On facebook, I bring the thought of empowerment seriously so I created a facebook page for this.

The main idea is to have a space where ideas and suggestions meet, where problems are analysed pro-actively.

Re-accentuating my point that I feel for my fellow women, I am referring to a sector of women that understands their rights and privileges.

Women who want to stand up for their shared privileges in this world that would enhance their persons. Women who know what selfless community service means and not those who parade their physical assets to cater to the lust of men.

Women who respect their bodies, minds and soul. Women who are dignified in many ways and not those who merely depend on men’s love and approval which stifles their opportunity to advance their minds and spirit. One can love but must not surrender her personal liberties. The thing called “freedom” is the sanity of existence. This sense of “liberty” shapes every woman’s concept of herself.

Strong headed as I am, my spirit would always rise no matter how many times I fall. With this disposition, I share with my fellow women the beauty of life defined by them and not by others.

I understand that I am a Muslimah, but my faith will not stop me from reaching out to all the women of the universe. For my religion is not a block to understanding the plight of women. The Almighty Allah shall guide my advocacy of peace and interfaith co-existence. My conscience shall carry no discrimination, racism and hate.I have survived a lot of experiences in life that tested my outlook. Never once did I give up and submit myself to a situation that killed me figuratively. Agony in life is a test, it is not a lock to stop you from conquering your own weakness.

Rise up and be strong. Never tell yourself that fate is above you. You are your fate. God only guides. Choices are in your hands.

Love has come to me, in its real essence. However, I always have the mindset to free what is not fulfilling. Love is always an experience of letting go and not holding on. Perhaps, if I know that what is being offered to me is true, fair and has a future, then love will conquer me. I know that it is before me now with Allah’s guidance. I leave everything to the Almighty Allah.

The “future” I am referring to is about having one goal and vision while in a relationship. It means having one goal for the same advocacy for it will surely occupy most of my time and if my partner will think more of himself then I would be imprisoned in a relationship that would not allow me to reach out to others .

At first glance, some relationships look promising but as days go deeper and difference of interests becomes clear, the future looks gloomy.

My dear sisters, I am writing with utmost sincerity to tell you that what you are experiencing in life is not new to me. Let me remind you that you are more powerful than any sad experience in your life. Thou shall not surrender to challenges.

Stand up with a smile.

Life is a beautiful journey only if you sustain a mindset that views struggles as the shaping of your internal strength;or that every sad experience as a test of your endurance.

There is always God to pray for. He will not forsake you. Keep building your faith in Him and in yourself.

You have to stand alone if you must but always be humble of your worth. Let those around you appreciate you but keep your opinion of yourself in silence. You are not the right person who should talk of your achievements, let those whose lives you have touched confirm that.

Fellow woman, I am here. if you share my advocacy and my principles, I welcome you to my world. As long as our friendship will not serve any other purpose other than helping others, I will be here to be a true friend. For anything noble, selfless and true deserves utmost attention.


I am a woman, therefore I am here for my fellow women.


It will pass….

You will get hurt but it will pass. You will be pained but it will pass. Nothing is permanent in this world, my dear. One thing that you need to count on is yourself–your ability to rise after a fall.

Please always move on with grace. Life is beautiful only if you would not fail to exist. There are many things on this world that you can do..because you need to believe in yourself before anyone else can believe in you.

Rise above the hurts my dear. For everything must pass but you need to remain standing, with a greater determination.

I have faith in you, my dear. 🙂

The Equal Mind

This image was sourced from the internet. What captured my attention is how the owner wanted to convey his/her thoughts. Every photograph has a message and this one seems weird but quite effective in grabbing attention.

I find it eerie but fascinating. The goth community loves images of this kind. They are always misunderstood but they have a different culture that is weird for most of us. Like other sectors of this society, we need to study their culture before we judge them. To understand the perspective of those called “weird” might be a refreshing experience. After all, we want the same for our advocacy and principles as well.

Our society is always bias to what has popular following. In return, we have forgotten that the truth is not always popular or self-serving, but it is deserving of acknowledgement. We cannot segregate the unpopular truth from its opposite. We need to build an institution that embraces an “equal mind.”

What is an Equal Mind? An equal mind does not advance uniformity nor unchallenged perception. I am always for a healthy debate and objective understanding of any system. My idea of a equal mind is something that addresses “equal footing and equal opportunities and rights.” No one can argue about equal rights because it is provided for in the Philippine Constitution (read: I was born in the Philippines).

I just brought up this issue to invite you to think more deeply on setting the perimeters of social status on the zero level. I am not saying that we should ignore those who have more personal achievements than the rest. What I am exactly saying is for us to consider thinking that the government resources should be shared equally and that everyone, regardless of their status in life, should have a fair say on the running of their respective community affairs.

Sadly, this is not new to most of us. We are all aware of this. That is why many street activists drumbeat ” equality” as a must in our socio-political mainstream. It is a fact that when we want to institutionalize fairness, we want equality.

I might sound idealistic but my point is too practical to label as technical. In your daily interaction, you can apply this mentality when you have government funds to divide, and let those who have less have more.

This is just a reminder that in the eyes of God, everyone is equal.


Why, that sad face? Do you want to understand why there are people in your life who would choose to hurt you than love you?

You want to understand why they make you feel unloved for one moment then cared for the next day. You want to understand why they seem inconsistent.

But did you ever try to understand them?

Did you go further from judging them? Did you care to understand why they do things the way they did?

Are you aware that they too are going through some personal pains but they do not bother to let you know for they do not like to upset you?

Did you ever try to know if they feel loved and respected by you? For if not, then why are you complaining if they do not seem to understand you if you do not understand them at all?

You want to understand why those things you expect do not happen. You want to understand why you cannot get the things you want. But did you ever try to understand why things happen the way you do not want them to be? Did you care to know the reasons behind?

You want to understand why life is not kind to you. But did you ever count your blessings? Did you ever try to look beyond your windows and see the sufferings outside which you find no time to look at because you are too self-focused?

You want to understand why you are like that. Is it because you are used to being understood and could get anything you want until some changes occurred?

You want to understand if those you detest understand you? For if not, then they should know what is in your heart and mind.

You owe them an understanding, too.

This life is not just about us. It is about others too and taking time to understand them a little more will lighten up your woes because you will discover that it is not you alone who is suffering, they are, too.

“Puto at iba pa”


I am fond of these foods.

1. Puto is a kind of steamed rice cake in Philippine cuisine derived from the Southern Indian dish Puttu.  It is eaten as is or with butter and/or grated fresh coconut, or as an accompaniment to a number of savoury viands.  (Wikipedia)


2. Kutsinta

Puto kutsinta or kutsinta is a type of steamed rice cake found throughout the Philippines. It is made from a mixture of rice flour, brown sugar and lye, enhanced with yellow food coloring or annatto extract, and steamed in small ramekins.- Wikipedia


3. Maguindanaon Tuna Pastil

I love the Tuna pastil.

Here’s how to do it:


Tuna (1 kilo)

Onion (Half an onion, thinly sliced)

1/2 cup Coconut or olive oil (or plain cooking oil)

Soy Sauce (¼ cup)

¾ cup Vinegar

½ tsp. Black Pepper

Salt to taste

4 Cups of White Rice

Banana Leaves for wrapping


  1. Cook rice then set aside.
  2. Slice tuna and boil until the meat is tender.
  3. Let the meat cool before making it into flakes.
  4. Put oil in a pan then sauté the sliced onions in low fire.  When the onions turn transparent, add the flaked tuna meat, salt, and black pepper.
  5. Cook for 10 minutes before adding the vinegar and soy sauce.  Continue to cook until the oil comes out.
  6. Put rice in banana leaves and top it with the tuna flakes then wrap.


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4. Mangoes

This basketful of mangoes was given by my brother, Datu Ma-arouph. I love eating mangoes with my bare hand. I enjoy every minute of it when I eat at home. Otherwise, if in public places and to avoid getting messy, I eat it with spoon.

Float above constraint



My literary contribution to the Linkedin community is to level with all backgrounds– touching souls by communicating with the heart.

I may talk about politics once in a while, but most of my articles will delve on soulful connection–the unification of the intellect and the soul.

You can label me as a soulful writer–for I seek to confront wisdom not by quantitative analysis. Yet I am aware that knowledge is diverse and must always be measurable.

Perhaps, I gravitate towards Einstein’s call for imagination as better than knowledge, but the latter is always required to further the paintings of the mind.

My thrust is more on understanding thyself. To master life is to master thyself.


FLOAT? Float for what or for whom? For what is the relevance of thy float?

I used the word ‘float’ with reference to pressures in life. Hence, I say, you can ‘float above constraint’.

Are you not tired of listening to endless arguments sustained by human ego and the unending struggle for peace to end all conflicts?

Every man can control his destiny through the power of his mind. The ability to face life pressures with confidence to conquer all fears and worries with mental strength is just one of the important actions of ‘floating above constraints’.

I trust in YOUR ability to apply this to your personal life for fate gives us ways and means to diversify our actions when we try to balance the inner and outer pressures in our respective lives.

No matter what you do, never let anything or anyone pull you down and succumb to the pressures of life.

Strive hard to float and not to sink when life becomes heavy to your mind and soul.

I hope this article is able to touch your life today. Love and peace!

I respect myself



Should I be guilty of not returning the messages of possible suitors online?

Should I be guilty of being too private where my world is always closed?

But why should I open my door to anyone?

Why do I need to unveil my world if my heart says the truth? 

 Do I need to be a lady in the night, holding wine in my hand and chatting with men who I just met a moment ago?

Those are not the actions of a decent woman.

For why is there a need to flirt to get attention for a passion that does not last? If secrets are to be shared, the deserving one will know for my time will be his.

But a wise life is not bet on hopes, but plans. Concrete and not imaginary dreams.

I am recluse but not outcast. Decency is the name. I choose but not unreachable. Propriety is the other name. I am a woman but I have a name and that is where I should be.

I am not confined just discerning. My personal side is private. My social part is not contained in hypocrisy. I am what I am. NO mask, no facade.

Take me or leave me. The choice is yours. It is free.