I used to say…

I used to say that kindness should be unconditional, it must reach everyone no matter where they are and whoever they are. But later on, that belief has changed. Personal experience has taught me the truth about kindness.

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When I joined Facebook, this philosophy has been my guide in my social interaction, both with strangers and true friends. The premise with the latter is never to judge anyone not unless they have proven me otherwise. With my true friends, it has always been an enriching interaction, by heart. I trust and love them unconditionally.

I was told several times in the past not to trust strangers and I knew that all along but if I limit myself only to those I know, then how can I spread my advocacy. So I continued to welcome strangers but with limitations, civility is always a mark of people with good breeding.

Then out of that reminder I have learned a lesson that my kindness could be mistaken as a permission for a bisexual to get persistent to woe me.  I eventually blocked her on Facebook, Flickr, Linkedin and in all my other online sites.  But that slanderer is still wallowing in bitterness using her FB space to slander me.

Some men too tried to win my affection online too and my rejection of their proposal made them bitter and full of sarcasm. Since then I do not respond to personal messages not unless I know them well. I never opened my messages from strangers.

I used to say that Kindness should be unconditional, but I need to rephrase my statement with this:

Kindness is unconditional with people who deserve it. Some will naturally see my kindness as a form of weakness or even find that as a signal for them to continue their personal motives against my personal principles. So it has to be conditional with strangers, but unconditional with my true friends.

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Oh yes, I am aware about the humane aspect of kindness when we have to be one even if we are in the midst of cruel and selfish individuals.

It is not a problem to me. We come to this world to serve for Islam is community service–SERVICE ABOVE SELF.

I follow the teachings of the dear Prophet Muhammad (swt) but with discernment. For Islam encourages the Muslim Ummah to seek knowledge as well and be well-educated. Islam gives high value for knowledge for it is for our own good. The right knowledge can guide our actions and decisions.

As a Muslim, I always work for the best of others. I have faith in dear Allah’s (swt) guidance for I know that despite of the fact that I feel so loved by my friends and family members, there will always be one or two who will not be pleased with what I do. ENVY is the demon lurking in anyone’s heart and can eventually eat the host if they will not rise above it.

Who we are comes second. It is what we do and how we treat people that comes first. This is my lifetime principle.

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Thank you, ANONYMOUS

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I woke up with a smile on my face knowing that I am not alone in my Truth advocacy after seeing the Anonymous’s declaration of war against Donald Trumph–the loud bigot who wants to seize the United States of America.

Trump’s racist slur and his call to ban all Muslims from entering the United States despite the fact that he has business dealings with the Islamic world makes me puke.

Thank you, Anonymous. Thank you for your just response to the verbal offense and bigotry of Trump. Your presence in the net will help discipline politicians like Trump to behave in a manner expected of someone aspiring for a responsible position. An irresponsible character like Trump does not deserve the Presidency of the United States.

Trump’s candidacy leaves more questions to me. His style of campaigning addresses the silent majority of Islamophobes who hate Muslims mainly out of hate despite the appeal to reason from objective camps.

Who or which powerful group or powers that be that want him to win? Is it not a fact that those who control the world resources want someone they can manipulate to grab the Presidency. Not someone they can be constantly battling to sustain their existence.

I am not only referring to the Illuminati, and this is not all about conspiracy theory. This is all about the truth. While some factions deny the existence of the “Illuminati” but majority believe they are lurking above the world economy, I remain open to the idea that there are powerful blocs who want to run the world and they may not be necessarily the “Illuminati”.

I live in the Philippines, a country which many credible observers dubbed as the puppet of the United States. From getting foreign funds to its implementation, the United States is always present in all the affairs of this government. So why should I not raise this issue if I can personally relate for my family has been a victim of lies spread in the past relative to the Liguasan Marsh.

Read more about it here: http://baimaleihareviews.blogspot.com/2011/08/official-statement-of-candao-clan-on.html

My family was identified as interested in the Liguasan Marsh when I, being a member of my family, can attest that it was a concoction of lies with the help of some political groups in the Province of Maguindanao in the past, who wanted us to be out of the political equation.

No need to name names but the truth shall manifest itself for dear Allah (swt) will always render HIS justice, slowly but sure. We know what the truth is and we shall stand for it.

As a truth advocate, it is my duty to state the facts more so if you spread lies about my own family.

It is just a choice between tolerating lies or standing up for the truth.

We all have the equal rights to bare the truth and those who chose silence over the truth will have no one to blame but themselves.

Back to your great work, Anonymous. Thank you for standing up for the oppressed. ❤

In this world where Muslims are seen as the bad people, my heart always bleeds with the fellow Ummah who have to bear with the Islamophobes, bigots and plain haters. Reports of being violently mauled for being Muslims add pain in my heart.

Thank you, ANONYMOUS, for showing to the world that what is happening to the Islamic world is not just. Thank you for defending the Muslims from Trump. I know that  most of those who have great minds and hearts are known as ANONYMOUS. Thank you for believing in the preservation of good humanity, of which we all play an important role.

May justice and peace reign in this world. Often said but easier said than done.  But I chose to have faith in the goodness of humanity, no matter what.

Charity Beyond Faith

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This article is a tribute to the kindheartedness of my non-Muslim friends who never wasted a single minute to help my fellow Muslims in need  of help sometime in June of 2011, when a natural calamity hit the province of Maguindanao and City of Cotabato . My heart shall always remember them as long as I live.

Ingersoll said: We rise by lifting others. I submit.

The Book: Real Life

Real life is an excellent book authored by my dear friend, Dolly Palisada. The photo shows that Dolly featured my personal message,  to convey the importance of doing charity amidst the challenges that confronted the team of the Tabang Maguindanao Bayanihan– an online group which I created on Facebook to help the poor flood victims.

My message spoke of the need for the initiative of the private sector to assist those in need and do it without delay. Hence, we must not depend on the government to help when the need arises if we can act decisively for the helpless.

The book also shares the wonderful stories of great individuals who went out of their way to touch lives.

Doubts?

I was expecting the response of some peope to doubt my motive and color it politically because I come from a family of politicians and those threatened by the popularity of my cause will not see me as an ally.

However, it did not deter my determination to prove that even without the resources of the government, we can deliver help, no matter how small.

Perhaps, it was the impetus needed for everyone to start doing their share, more so because they are obligated to do it for they have sufficient funds from the government’s coffer.

Objective minds need to prevail over small mindedness. Great minds as we all know seek to solve problems and not dwell in it.

Beyond Qatar

After creating Tabang Maguindanao Bayanihan (TMB) on Facebook on June 4, 2011, My Kuya Ben Leano, a brother beyond blood and one of my truest friends, assisted me by linking up with the Reform the Arm Movement (RAM) of Danny Tan. RAM decided to use their office to receive donations from Metro Manila. Truly touching.

Dolly,  and another equally committed friend, Ruby Dapitan, helped me collect relief items such as old clothes and other things needed by the flood refugees. Ruby is based in Qatar  but despite the geographical distance, nothing stopped her to help the victims who were ninety percent Muslims. What truly impressed me about Ruby, Dolly and my other Non-Muslim friends, was their unconditional support to the victims.

Those two friends of mine truly represented the beautiful spirit of humanity.

The group was joined by Joel Ganibe, Mike Portes, Marlene Damolo-Howe and other great friends and we bonded as one for the plight of the Muslim and non-Muslim flood refugees. Our group effort and solid commitment found its way to the refugee centers of Cotabato City and Maguindanao where we distributed the relief goods for the people urgently needing help.

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Beyond Faith

I will forever be grateful to my Tabang Maguindanao Bayanihan family for crossing the borders of faith and helping me unconditionally. I am of the belief that there is no border nor a boxed definition of what kindness should be. Allah (swt) has made everything possible because He wanted to remind everyone, regardless of faith, that humanity is an inclusive reality.

I have been doing my private works in 2012 until the present, but not as a group representing Tabang Maguindanao Bayanihan.  The group stopped its activity before the end of 2011. I decided to work privately  knowing that the other members are also preoccupied with their individual tasks. But I know they will always be there again for another collective action.

Allah (swt) has been helping me with the personal funds I  need. Not much but at least, I can feed not more than thirty poor children when I have to. Sourced from the donation of my own family members. It is now a family activity in the name of dear Allah (swt). Alhamdullilah.

No matter how small my effort is, it is the joy of knowing that I can touch lives, and seeing the smile of the recipients of my charity works– mothers and kids from the poor sector.

Charity is a part of Islam and every Muslim is obligated to do their share.

The Holy Quran [9:60] says:

Charities(Sadaqaat) shall go to the poor, the needy, the workers who collect them, the new converts, to free the slaves, to those burdened by sudden expenses, in the cause of Allah, and to the traveling alien. Such is GOD’s commandment. GOD is Omniscient, Most Wise.

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Moving On Beautifully

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Ladies, I talk to you from my heart.

This article can be you, expressing your repressed thoughts.

This article might be conveying the right words you wish not to speak at the moment.

My dear, I know how you feel.

Getting emotionally stuck for someone? Not good.

Missing someone who has already moved on? Not good.

Wanting to go back to the arms of the wrong person? Not good.

Let me guide your thoughts. I know you have much wisdom, but a friend’s care and loving presence will not hurt, right?

Feelings will continue to hurt if you give more time for it, but if you divert your attention to something worthwhile other than your sentimental self, you can move on as fast as you want.

So dear ladies, here are some quick reality-check tips to shorten your personal agony.

1. Are you sure he is grieving at the moment of parting? Perhaps your special someone has a new one waiting for him. Forget about losing him. Focus on yourself and forget the closed door. Consider it a blessing in disguise.

Perhaps it was best for you to enter a new door that can bring you fulfillment and happiness. Look at the closed door as locked sadness.

So never let it escape again and seize you.

2. He is not the only man in this world. Please stop saying that he is the only man you can ever love. Yay! That is not true, beautiful friend.

Get off your sentimental self and fly. Always be kind and positive and fate will bring you the man of your dreams. Never settle for anything less.

3. Pain can linger so cut it short. Divert your mental focus and personal energy. Give time to those who love you unconditionally.

4. Stay positive and stop overthinking. I have been there and it can make you stupid.

Simplify your thoughts. If the relationship did not work, forget it. If you hate his memories, bury them. The most important thing is moving on, and doing it beautifully.

There are more tips but I will leave it to you to figure them out. You are one awesome and empowered lady, you can do it.

I have been there. Done that. And I say YEYEY!

Oh….I know I will fall in-love again. Promessa.

The Agony of a Muslim

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THE AGONY OF A MUSLIM…….

If you are a Muslim, it is hard to find serenity in your soul if what you see everyday are bloody images from oppressed citizens in Palestine, Yemen, Syria, Burma and other countries occupied by terrorists in the name of business and politics.

Then someone would pinch your conscience, as if you were insensitive and blind to other faiths whose people were also victims of evil extremists using Islam as an excuse for their heinous crimes.

As if they were telling you that it is not only Muslims who suffer, for even non-Muslims do. Hence, to appease your critics, you tell the truth that you do not intend to discriminate whom to sympathize with.

Not every non-Muslim knows that most of the Muslims cry in their homes whenever they see victims of injustice and their tears do not flow after knowing the victims were Muslims but they grieve because another innocent member of humanity was a victim of human cruelty.

But this is one truth that everyone in this page should learn to understand:

Whenever we pray, we think not only of ourselves and our families but even our fellow Muslims who are too far to reach.

ISLAM IS ALL ABOUT SERVICE TO THE COMMUNITY. It is a faith that teaches all Muslims to reach out to fellow Muslims and if possible, take care of each other’s needs. It is in the Holy Quran that we have to prioritize the poor, the needy and the helpless.

It is a commitment of every Muslim to defend the oppressed members of the Ummah.

You can attack a tribe in the Islamic community, even demonize them as a divide and rule tactic. but as a member of the Ummah they will unite in the name of Allah (swt) before the day ends. They open and end the day praying to dear Allah (swt). How can they forget their fellow Ummah?

That is the WHOLE TRUTH.

~ Princess Maleiha B. Candao
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November 29. 2015
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I respect myself

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Should I be guilty of not returning the messages of possible suitors online?

Should I be guilty of being too private where my world is always closed?

But why should I open my door to anyone?

Why do I need to unveil my world if my heart says the truth? 

 Do I need to be a lady in the night, holding wine in my hand and chatting with men who I just met a moment ago?

Those are not the actions of a decent woman.

For why is there a need to flirt to get attention for a passion that does not last? If secrets are to be shared, the deserving one will know for my time will be his.

But a wise life is not bet on hopes, but plans. Concrete and not imaginary dreams.

I am recluse but not outcast. Decency is the name. I choose but not unreachable. Propriety is the other name. I am a woman but I have a name and that is where I should be.

I am not confined just discerning. My personal side is private. My social part is not contained in hypocrisy. I am what I am. NO mask, no facade.

Take me or leave me. The choice is yours. It is free.